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Deciding About Dance Lessons

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If you're not sure whether you want or need dance lessons for your Bridal Dance, this article may be just what you need to help make your decision.


Most couples that contact me have already decided they want to have dance lessons for their wedding dance, but there are also a number that make contact who want to find out more about it as a part of their decision making process.

The interesting thing is that nearly all couples, whether they want to have dancing lessons or not, have one thing in common and that is that they don't want to look stupid or boring as they dance their First Dance as husband and wife.

Often the reason is that the couple don't care for dancing, or can't dance and never have and in their minds they see it as an unimportant part of their wedding day or something to just brush off. Yet those same couples have spent months, sometimes a year or more planning every little detail of their wedding right down to the last buttonhole flower wanting it all to be perfect ...... except for the dance.

The Bridal Waltz/Dance is an inherent part of the reception, if you've got a band or a DJ and a dance floor at your reception is surely follows that your guests will be dancing or expect to be and naturally the Bride and Groom are expected to be honoured by doing the First Dance.

At the end of the day I really thing most couples want to look nice for every part of the day and if they could dance well they would probably like that very much. The problem seems to be more in a perception of dance. Nearly every couple that comes to use for dancing lessons that has never danced before tell us that they'can't dance' or they are uncoordinated or that they have two left feet and it never fails to amaze me because how can one expect to be any different if you've never learnt how?

There seems to be some misconception in our society that if one has'natural rhythm' one can dance and that may be the case for nightclub dancing, but it certainly not the case for partnered dancing, (ballroom, Latin dancing etc), Ballroom dancing is based on'natural' body movement, ie: walking. If you can walk, you can learn to ballroom dance and a good teacher will make it quite easy to learn.

But more importantly, it's not even necessary to learn much in the way of dance steps or choreography in order to look nice for your First Dance. The whole secret is look good together as a couple; moving smoothly in unison and being coordinated as you go through a few nice moves.

You don't need to know how to dance much at all as the object is to look like you know what you are doing as that is what gives such a nice impression on your wedding day. If you stand there in a hug and just shuffle around it's almost like wearing assign on your back that says "we don't know what we are doing"!

The most common misconception is that learning a dance is complicated or takes a lot of work and if that were the case it could drive a lot of people off the idea. Learning to dance for a performance or to be critically judged might take a lot of work but that's not the objective of the most couples for their Bridal Waltz, they just want to look like they know what they are doing and have their First Dance as husband and wife another well prepared and well presented moment of their wedding day.

And this is what you should be looking for as you make a decision about dancing on your wedding day, the lessons should not be something to turn you into something you are not, they should not be trying to turn you into good dancers, they should be wholly focussed on making you'look like' you know what you are doing.

There's really only three questions you need to ask yourself to decide whether you should have dance lessons for your wedding dance:

1. Do we look and feel comfortable and coordinated when we dance together?
2. Will our guests find it interesting or boring watching us dance?
3. Do we look like we know what we are doing?

If you answered yes to all three questions then the only reason you'd want dance lessons is to learn a specific dance, improve your dancing or have a dance personally choreographed.

If you answered no to one or more questions then it's pretty clear that you need some dance lessons and would be well advised to include them in your wedding planning and preparation.

Author: Julie Tremp, Principal of Wedding Dance Lessons Sydney

About The Author:

Julie is the principal of Wedding Dance Lessons Sydney and teaches hundreds of couples their Wedding Dance each year. She has danced since the age of 3, studying formal ballet & theatrical dance in her youth and all styles of Ballroom and Latin dancing in latter years. She has performed, choreographed and taught professionally most of her adult life. She has taught for dance studios in Australia and Europe, schools & colleges in Australia and is a lecturer, teacher and adjudicator for the Dance Council of Australia.

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